DMJ 1 on 1: 5 Pieces of Advice That I Think Are Wrong

Each week on DMJ 1 on 1, Kirby Hasseman takes on a different topic to help provide value to those looking to grow a brand or organization.  This time Kirby talks about 5 pieces of advice that he thinks are wrong!  Watch now!

DMJ 1 on 1: 5 Pieces of Advice That I Think Are Wrong

There’s a lot of advice floating around out there, and while some of it can be helpful, some of it can also be misleading or even harmful. In this article, we’ll be discussing five pieces of advice that are often given, but that I believe are fundamentally flawed. These include the notions that finding your passion means you’ll never work another day in your life, that you should always go big or go home, that high school is the best time of your life, that work-life balance is attainable for everyone, and that you should always work smarter, not harder. I hope that by discussing these pieces of advice, I can help you think more critically about the advice you receive and inspire you to elevate your game.

Find Your Passion (And You’ll Never Work A Day In Your Life)

The first piece of advice we’ll be discussing is the idea that finding your passion means you’ll never work another day in your life. While it’s true that finding something you love can make work more enjoyable, it doesn’t mean that there won’t be difficult or unpleasant aspects of the job. In fact, telling kids that they’ll never work a day in their life if they find their passion can be harmful and set them up for failure. It’s important to acknowledge that there will be seasons of hard work and challenges, even in a job you love. Instead of seeking a passion that eliminates work, we should be encouraging the pursuit of a passion that makes the hard work worthwhile.

Go Big or Go Home

The second piece of advice is the concept of going big or go home. While it’s important to have big dreams and goals, the reality is that many big changes in the world are the result of consistent small changes over time. Setting unrealistic expectations of making a big impact right away can lead to unsustainable efforts and eventual burnout. Instead of going big or go home, it’s more effective to start small and keep going. This approach allows for steady progress and sustainable growth, which can ultimately lead to big changes.

High School as the Best Time of Your Life

The third piece of advice is that high school is the best time of one’s life. While high school can certainly be a fun and exciting time, telling struggling kids that high school is the best time of their life can be discouraging and prevent them from envisioning a better future. It’s important to live in the present and work towards a desired future, rather than dwelling on the past. There are many exciting opportunities and experiences beyond high school that can surpass it in terms of enjoyment and fulfillment.

Work-Life Balance

The fourth piece of advice is the notion of work-life balance. While it’s a worthy goal, the reality is that work-life balance is unattainable for most people. Striving for it can put unnecessary pressure on individuals and lead to feelings of guilt and inadequacy. There will be times when work takes precedence over personal life, and that’s okay as long as it’s temporary. It’s important to find a balance that works for each individual and to prioritize self-care and family when necessary.

Work Smarter, Not Harder

The fifth and final piece of advice we’ll be discussing is the idea to work smarter, not harder. While working smart is important, it shouldn’t be used as an excuse to avoid putting in effort. Successful people often work hard and put in the necessary time and dedication to achieve their goals. Working hard is within an individual’s control and can be a key component of success. So, while it’s important to work smart, it’s equally important to work hard.


In conclusion, while there’s a lot of advice out there, it’s important to think critically about what you’re being told and to consider whether it’s truly beneficial. Remember, what works for one person may not work for another, and it’s okay to forge your own path. I hope that by discussing these pieces of advice, I’ve helped you to think more critically and inspired you to elevate your game.

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Written by: Kirby Hasseman

Kirby Hasseman is the CEO of Hasseman Marketing & Communications. Kirby hosts a weekly Web show called Delivering Marketing Joy where he interviews business leaders from around the country. Kirby has published four books. His most recent is “Fan of Happy.” His book, called "Delivering Marketing Joy" is about doing “promo right” and is perfect for people in the industry and customers. He also wrote “Think Big For Small Business” and “Give Your Way to Success. All are available on Amazon.