It’s time for Episode 22 of the He Said/She Said Podcast with Hasseman Marketing! This podcast is designed to give an inside look at being married and being entrepreneurs and the projects we are working on and the challenges we are facing! We talk about business, family, community and more. So listen in and let us know what you think!
On this episode we talk about…
Trending Topic
This week Kirby and Amy talk about the reason you should (and should not) buy local. It’s not a moral obligation. Amy tells the story of an example when buying local simply can give better service. Listen in and give us your thoughts!
Weekly Whirlwind
This week in the Weekly Whirlwind Amy talks about the progress (and some lack of progress) at the building project and what has been really stressing her out over the last week or so!
Lesson In Life
This week Kirby and Amy discuss the idea of communication. Most leaders think they are good communicators. Most employees think communication is bad. What is the disconnect? Kirby and Amy dig into the concept of “over-communicating.” Is that a thing?
Shout Outs
Each week we want to give a shout out to an organization or an individual doing good work. This week Amy talks about the heroes of this time of year…teachers! Most of our kids are heading back to school…so big shout out to those that are working with them every day. Kirby gives a shout out to his buddy Bill Petrie. Bill has been hard at work on a new program called PromoMBA, and Kirby points out the big difference between ideas and execution.
So that’s a wrap! Thanks for listening to Episode 22 of the He Said She Said Podcast! Any feedback will be welcome as we try to provide you value! If you want to subscribe you can do that where you normally get podcasts…or you can head here to follow on Soundcloud.
There are so many ways that technology has changed our world for the better. We can communicate with nearly anyone around the world. We can shop anytime. We can donate to causes from our kitchen. We have the ability to click a button and have things delivered to our phone instantly, or to our front door in a day or two. It truly is an amazing time we live in!
The one thing I see as a detriment to this “overnight delivery” culture that we live in, is a pure lack of patience for anything.
In other words, despite the fact that we live in a “microwave society” many things that matter to us need to be cooked in the crock pot.
Things that matter take time. Change can be difficult. As a matter of fact, real progress takes pain (like I said here). Here are some basic examples.
If you want to change your fitness level, it will not happen overnight. It will take months of real work.
Want to start a sales career? Get ready for a year to 18 months of building trust and relationships.
Want to have a relationship that lasts? The foundation will not be created overnight on twitter.
It’s simple…but not easy. The things that really matter in your life take time and work. They take consistent effort. And yes, they take patience.
This does not mean you shouldn’t start now! As Seth Godin once told me, “The best time to plant a tree is 40 years ago. The 2nd best time is now.” If you have something in your life that is worth working for, now is a great time get to work on it. Just know that it will take time. That time won’t make it worth less. It will make it worth more.
You aren’t creating something in the microwave. You are simmering your project in the crockpot. Bon Appetit!
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I went to bed at a normal time, but woke up around 2am to noises with one of the dogs. It startled me a bit. Then I went to get the dog, and he ran from me. By the time I wrangled him and put him in my bed, my mind had officially reached the “I’m awake” zone. You know the place. It’s where, despite your fervent desire to go back to sleep, your thoughts come flooding into your brain like a tsunami.
And 2am thoughts are very rarely (for me) the happy go lucky thoughts. They are the doom and gloom. At 2am every thought is stressful. Every thought reminds you of something you should have done or something you should not have said. My thoughts, in these nights of fitful sleep, are a highlight reel of horror.
Have you ever noticed how big these problems feel in the middle of the night?
Needless to say, after that night of frustrating sleep, I struggled to get up this morning. But once I did convince myself to get out of bed (and I made my first cup of coffee) things started to look up. The problems, that seemed so large at 2am, don’t seem quite so daunting. Make no mistake, there are still problems and challenges. They just don’t seem so hopeless in the morning.
I often wonder why that is.
Sometimes I think it’s because, in the morning, I start to look at these challenges with a bias towards action. Yes, I still have things I need to face. But once I am up (and have put my big boy pants on) I get to do something about them! I like that. It feels productive.
But I think the change also happens in my mind. I change the highlight reel. In the middle of the night, that highlight reel is filled with anxiety. In the morning, I start thinking about what I can do about it. Once my mental highlight reel changes, my attitude changes with it.
What is your highlight reel showing you? How can you change it?
We live in a world where it seems like everything is moving at lightening speed…and getting faster. We have more to do, and seemingly, less time to get it all done. With that in mind, most of us are looking to be more productive. We don’t need to be more busy. We need to get more done. That need to get more done (and be more happy) is the inspiration behind the series START & STOP!
Each time on START & STOP, I give viewers and listeners one thing they should start doing and one thing they should stop if they want to be more productive. On this episode we tackle the topic of Gratitude and Excuses.
START a Habit of Gratitude
We have a formula backwards in our culture today. We think that if we work hard and achieve success, then we will be happy. Studies will tell you that is not true. Instead, if you are happy and you work hard, you are more likely to succeed. But how can you “be happy?” The answer is simple. Be grateful. You cannot be grateful and negative at the same time! In order to start being more grateful, start a 30 day gratitude challenge. Every day, send one thank you note to someone. At first it will be easy. But as time goes on, you will have to start looking for reasons to be thankful. As you look for it, you will start to see more good in the world. It’s a powerful exercise (even if you have already done it). If you want to be more productive, start a habit of gratitude!
STOP Making Excuses
This week I want encourage you to STOP making excuses. It’s time to take responsibility for every thing in your life! If something goes wrong, assume it’s your fault. This is not about playing the martyr. It’s about looking at every challenge as a chance to learn and grow. When you take responsibility for everything, it can be very empowering. If you want to be more productive (and happy), stop making excuses.
I received a call a few weeks ago from a person looking for advice. They were trying to figure out the best way to communicate a delicate issue. It was important to get the message across, but they were concerned they might be overstepping their bounds. Should they talk to another colleague to help? Should they be subtle? Should they try and find a clever way to have the person “find out” the information?
My advice was simple. Don’t be creative. But clear. Get in front of the person and talk to them directly about the issue.
In this world of (seemingly) unlimited communication options, the choice can be overwhelming. Should I send an email? Should I text? Maybe I could message them on Facebook. Just like in the grocery store, when there are too many options, we often make no choice at all. So in a world where there are more communication tools than ever before, clear communication can often be missing.
The message is clear. If you want to have a real relationship, clear communication is critical. It’s why there are some many advantages to “seeing the people” in sales or starting a business. When you can actually speak directly to your customer, and see their real reaction, it is powerful.
Additionally, I am a believer in being clear with your ask. Gary Vaynerchuk talks about this in his book Jab, Jab, Jab, Right Hook. In this book, the Right Hook, was the ask. If you are going to sell…sell. Don’t try to make it look like you are not. The prospect or customer will see through it. If are trying to give value…just do that. Don’t mix the message.
If you want to give. Give.
If you want to sell. Just ask.
Remember. Clear is Kind.
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I love this story I heard a long time ago from Wayne Dyer. I am relating this from memory, but it goes something like this.
I was walking through my neighborhood this weekend enjoying a nice day, when a couple walked up to me.
They asked me “What are the people like here? We are interested in purchasing a home and moving here and we would like to know.”
I said, “Well, that depends. What are the people like where you live now?:
They replied quickly, “Oh, they are terrible. They talk about you behind your back. They are small minded and mean. They look for any reason to argue. It’s a struggle.”
“Ah,” I said. “That’s pretty much what you will find here.”
Then I wished them well and continued on the way on my walk. Soon, another couple came up to me with the same question.
They asked me “What are the people like here? We are interested in purchasing a home and moving here and we would like to know.”
I said, “Well, that depends. What are the people like where you live now?:
This couple replied quickly as well. “Oh, they are the best! Everyone looks out for one another! We have great neighborhood gatherings. It’s a great community. Honestly, we hate to leave!”
To that I replied, “That’s pretty much what you will find here.”
I think that story is so powerful. We all know people that find negativity and frustration everywhere they go. No matter who they are dealing with, it is a confrontation. On the other hand, there are probably people in your life that seem impervious to that sort of negativity. They seem to find the positive in each situation. They lift others up (both figuratively and literally). It reminds us that what we are seeing in our life now “that’s pretty much what you will find here.”
What you seek you shall find.
So when you understand that what you are looking for will expand in your life, in the words of Wayne Dyer, “you get really careful about what you are looking for!”
On this day, be intentional about what you seek out. Look for the best in other people. Look for the best in your work. Look for the best in you.
