by Kirby Hasseman
I love Thanksgiving. It’s my favorite holiday. It seems like the whole world starts trying to celebrate Christmas after Labor Day. But I like the idea of gathering with family and friends, with no gifts, and being grateful. And this week I have talked a bit about being grateful and kind in our lives here. But today I wanted to say “thank you” to you. Yes…you. Since May 31st I have been writing a blog post here every day. It’s been fun on some days and a struggle on others. But I have put something up here each day. And today, it occurs to me, that many of you have read quite a few of them. That means a lot to me. So I am grateful for you. In honor of that, and in honor of those that have joined in along the way, I have decided to share some of the most read blogs here. 5 Books I Recommend: There are some cool books on this list, and it ties to my podcast. But this one took off because my good buddy, Jeff Haden, shared it! He is a Linkedin influencer (and this features one of his books). I Am Not For Everyone: This is one that caught we off guard. I took this from a conversation I was having and post it at the last minute. But it must have struck a nerve! Sometimes authenticity and vulnerability matter. 3 Lessons from Bohemian Rhapsody: My wife and I enjoyed this movie (regardless of reviews) and it made me think. I woke up the next morning thinking about the band’s journey. Here is what I took from it. 5 Lessons from Skucamp: It’s funny. This event has obviously left an impression with me. I posted about it yesterday here. But my original post about my lessons from the overall event still have people checking it out. 5 Book I Want My Daughters to Read: Yes, I am all about books. But this book list is foundational for personal development (from my perspective). Check out the list here…and read them! So like I said, today I want to say “thank you.” I really appreciate you taking the time to read, engage, share and grow! Let me know if I can help you! Make sure you never miss an update! Sign up for our VIP newsletter here! Each week we put together one email with all of the content of the week and send it to you!
by Kirby Hasseman
I love going to events that educate and inspire me. For me, it’s a great way to get out of the whirlwind, and learn and create ideas. One event I had the chance to attend this year was Skucamp. I talked about 5 of the takeaways from the event here. I was also honored to speak at the event with my good friend Bill Petrie. Bill and I took on the topic of Content Marketing in pretty raw form. We were honest about how we got started, and our struggles in doing so. And hopefully we were a little funny too! Here is a link to the presentation. This presentation is for: *Anyone that wants to do Content Marketing…but is not sure how to start. *Anyone that is not sure Content Marketing actually works. *Anyone that has tried Content Marketing in the past and failed. Bill and I also dig into our overall philosophies about Content Marketing. Feel free to check it out and let us know what you think! Make sure you never miss an update. Sign up for the VIP Newsletter here.
by Kirby Hasseman
How does your day start? What are the first things you think about? What are the first things you do?
If you are like most people, you start your day thinking about the yesterday. You might be stressed about the work you did not get done…or the bills you did not pay. You might be mad about a conversation with a co-worker or a spouse. Or you might be worried about things coming up today or tomorrow. You are thinking about all you have to get done. You worry about the meeting you will have or the project that is nearing it’s deadline. You are stressed that there will simply not be enough hours in the day to get it all done.
Either way a few things are true;
1. You are not living “in the now.”
2. You have started your day in stress mode.
Dr. Joe Dispenza talks about this phenomenon in his book Becoming Supernatural. It’s no wonder, he says, that we feel like we are living the same day over and over again. We start each day in the past! By the way, I totally get it. I struggle with this a ton too. My natural state is “go, go, go.” That means when I wake up, my brain is ahead of me. I struggle to not start my day “on the wrong foot.” It’s a daily struggle. So what do I do? Each morning, especially on those days where I can feel my stress taking over from the start, I do three quick things.
1. I Take a Deep Breath: The whole goal here is to slow my heart rate down. There is no sense in starting the day in stress mode. I know that intellectually. But this simple exercise helps me take control of my physiology.
2. I Make a Quick List of Things I am Grateful For: I talked about the power of this yesterday. The fact is, you can’t be upset or negative when you are grateful. So by re-setting my mindset to gratitude, it helps me to get back on track, mentally.
3. I Get Up and Start Taking Action: For me, a ton of the anxiety I feel comes for worrying about the problem…whatever that problem is. Once I get up and start working on the project, I feel better. For me, nothing cures worry like taking action on the problem. So on this week of Thanksgiving…gratitude wins again. Let me know if this helps you…or share with me your “go to” morning strategy!
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by Kirby Hasseman
My wife and I had the opportunity to attend an event called “Married Life Live” a few nights ago. Though I often hesitate to attend events like this, I am nearly always glad when I do. The fact is, just like in business, your relationships need for you to invest time and energy in them to make them better. The speaker this year was Shaunti Feldhahn. She is the author of several best selling books and on this night she spent a great deal of time talking about her book “The Kindness Challenge.” The concept is simple. You pick any relationship in your life (in this case she was talking to spouses) and for 30 days you do 3 simple things. 1. No negative talk to our about that person. This means you can’t say anything negative them. But it also means you can’t run to your friend and complain about them either. No negative talk about that person for 30 days.2. Sincerely compliment them on something they have done. Each day you find something you appreciate about them…and tell them.3. Do some act of kindness for them. This could be big or small. As Shaunti mentioned, for her 16 year old daughter, this act of kindness might be to stop working long enough to watch a youtube video with her. But each day, you make it a point to do something for them. I really like this concept. But there was one idea that jumped out to me above all others. Shaunti talked about one woman in a focus group that told her that she would really struggle to compliment her husband each day! She just could not imagine that she could come up with 30 compliments! She was so sure that she would not be able to come up with them that she decided to keep a notebook. “That way,” she told Shaunti, “I can bank them!” Then an awesome thing happened. On the first page of the journal, she listed 2 things that her husband had done for her. She thanked him for one of them and decided to save the next one for tomorrow. On day 2 she wrote down 5 things. On day 3 she wrote down 11! She was absolutely blown away by all of the good things her husband was doing that she was simply not noticing…until she started looking! There is science to back this up. The fact is, when you actively start to look for something, you tell your subconscious mind that it’s important. So your subconscious mind starts to find that thing and show it to you! It’s like when you buy a new car and start to see it all over the place! They were always there. You just needed to turn on the mental lights. So on this week of Thanksgiving, I want to challenge you to start your own Gratitude Journal. Start to look for things that are good in your life. An amazing thing will start to happen. You will start to find them! We are thankful for you! So please make sure you sign up to become a VIP! We want to provide you value each week so we send one email with all of our weekly content in one place. Sign up here.
by Kirby Hasseman
What are you doing today to get better? I am a big believer in ramping up activity in order to get better results. That can be in fitness, sales or being a better father. If you work harder on it, you generally get better at it. As I say all the time, “It’s simple. It’s not easy.” On the other hand, nearly everyone needs days to refresh and re-energize. I get that. As a matter of fact, I need that too. But even when you are looking to rest, you can do it intentionally. Is what you are doing bringing you real joy? Or are you just sitting on the couch, mindlessly watching crap? Are you filling your brain with good things? If you need a list of cool books to start with, check out my blog from the other day. As this post comes out, this is Sunday. Sunday is often thought of as a day of rest. Sure…but rest doing what? As I have asked before, what are you willing to invest? Today, I am challenging myself to watch educational videos…or listen to a good book. I might spend some time working out. Or I might spend some real time (no phones) with my family. Either way, my time will be spent on purpose. Will yours?
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