by Kirby Hasseman
My social media feed is probably a lot like yours. There are people that I really like. They are my true friends. I love keeping up with them. There are also people that I enjoy “following.” They might be funny, or interesting, or kind or a train-wreck. Either way, they are there for my entertainment. Unfortunately, there are others. These are the folks that are “friends” with me on social, but I don’t really care for. Most of the things they post make me roll my eyes or get annoyed. As a matter of fact, some days, this final group is all I seem to see!
The other day I was mindlessly scrolling on Facebook when one of the people from the final group had a post. They were complaining about something (as this group seems to do incessantly) and they had a suggestion to fix it. As usual, it was a totally absurd suggestion and I began my eye roll sequence. And then I paused and had a thought.
What if the answer was “yes?”
Stay with me on this. So many times, when we hear ideas or suggestions from people we don’t love or respect, our automatic response is to discredit it. We assume that whatever they are going to suggest is destined to be stupid, expensive, short sighted, or worse yet, evil. We don’t agree on most things, so how could they possibly have an idea that is good? Often we discredit the idea because of the person bringing it to the table.
But what if we looked at ideas (for real problems) with an “attitude of yes” regardless of where they came from?
The thought process would be a different one. Our brains would automatically start to think through the logistics of how it COULD work, instead of how it was dumb. For me, as I worked through the logistics of this Facebook idea, I found that it was not as “eye rolling” as I first believed. There is a pathway that might make it work. Maybe.
The magic behind this is we start to judge the idea independent of the person (or personality) behind it. When we do that, in business, politics, family and life, we get access to more perspectives, ideas and solutions. It’s easier said than done. But it’s powerful.
So the next time you see a crazy idea from “the other side” or a wild suggestion from that crazy Facebook friend, ask yourself a question.
What if I looked at this with “an attitude of yes?”
Thanks for reading! If you want to see all of our content, you can find most of it in one place here on our blog. In addition, you can check out my new book “The Give First Economy” on Amazon here.
by Kirby Hasseman
It’s time for Episode 33 of the He Said/She Said Podcast with Hasseman Marketing! This podcast is designed to give an inside look at being married and being entrepreneurs and the projects we are working on and the challenges we are facing! We talk about business, family, community and more. So listen in and let us know what you think!
On this episode we talk about…
Trending Topic
This week Kirby and Amy talk about the “new season” they are in. As they discuss, they went from full house to empty nest and back. How is that going? Listen in to find out!
Weekly Whirlwind
This week in the Weekly Whirlwind Amy talks about some progress at the building. She updates us on the good news she shared last week…and what that means now. Kirby talks about the work to catch up after time on the road while trying to be pro-active too. It’s a challenge right now!
Lesson In Life
This week in the “lesson in life” Kirby and Amy talk about the complaining and how it is taking over our culture. Kirby even “tells on himself” about a thing he was complaining about that he wasn’t even aware of…and how he has changed it!
Shout Outs
Each week we want to give a shout out to an organization or an individual doing good work. This week Kirby and Amy talk about the Coshocton County Transportation improvements that were recently announced in Coshocton. In addition, Kirby talks about Brad Fuller’s new podcast called “A Fuller Life.” You can find that here!
So that’s a wrap! Thanks for listening to Episode 33 of the He Said She Said Podcast! Any feedback will be welcome as we try to provide you value! If you want to subscribe you can do that where you normally get podcasts…or you can head here to follow on Soundcloud.
Thanks so much for listening! If you have any topics you want Kirby and Amy to cover, please comment and let us know! Oh…and if you like this content, check out this page where you can find all of the content we create!
by Kirby Hasseman
With the launch of my new book “The Give First Economy,” I reached out to several of my friends and peers that do podcasting and content to see if they could help me out. It’s always a vulnerable email to send out that says “please help me.” So I was humbled and honored that several people were kind enough to take me up on the offer. What was really cool was that each of these conversations, while they covered similar topics, were very different in tone and content.
That’s what happens when you are interviewed by professionals. They all have their own view, tone and vision for interviewing. Here are a few podcasts that were kind enough to have me.
Skucast with Bobby Lehew
Bobby Lehew is one of the most cerebral people in the Promotional Industry. He is an extremely well-read and thoughtful interviewer. Bobby wanted to dig into part 2 of the book first, and then chat about “giving first.” He even shared his own experience with getting too caught up in the chaos and the need to incorporate some meditation as a practice in your life. Listen to that conversation here.
So You’re In Sales with Roger Burnett
Roger is a believer in the “give first” philosophy and has created a business model around it. Roger dug right in on the concept of the book and wanted to unpack the idea that we have an “Appreciation Gap” in most organizations. Listen in to Roger and I here.
Clone Yourself with Sam Kabert
Sam Kabert is another friend of mine in the Promo Industry and is known for his SWAG Sam personality. But Sam has also become an expert in getting more done through the use of Virtual Assistants and speaks about that all over (he has even written a book about it). Sam and I have a pretty soulful conversation about the ins and outs of getting more done…but being more fulfilled and happy. Sam wants to go deep in his interviews and he does a great job drawing that out. Listen to that conversation here.
There are some more great conversations coming up soon and I will share those as well. But the book has done well (so far), in no small part to these amazing and gracious people that have been willing to have me on their podcasts…and lead a conversation. I so appreciate them “giving first” in this way.
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by Kirby Hasseman
It’s time for Episode 32 of the He Said/She Said Podcast with Hasseman Marketing! This podcast is designed to give an inside look at being married and being entrepreneurs and the projects we are working on and the challenges we are facing! We talk about business, family, community and more. So listen in and let us know what you think!
On this episode we talk about…
Trending Topic
This week Kirby and Amy decided that they would be tone deaf if they did not talk about the tragic death of Kobe Bryant and the crash that took nine lives. They discuss what they took away from the tragedy and how to move forward.
Weekly Whirlwind
This week in the Weekly Whirlwind Amy give some GOOD news at the building. We have been waiting for this one. Listen in as she talks about a big step forward. Kirby talks about a month of travel, a quick update about his new book and how he is getting back in the swing of things at the office.
Lesson In Life
This week in the “lesson in life” Kirby and Amy make it simple. Life is short. We don’t know what is next. Reach out. Say the nice thing. Live for today.
Shout Outs
Each week we want to give a shout out to an organization or an individual doing good work. This week Kirby and Amy talk about the Hometown Takeover with HGTV and the work the Coshocton Port Authority and others are doing to work in the community. How can you take part? Listen in!
So that’s a wrap! Thanks for listening to Episode 32 of the He Said She Said Podcast! Any feedback will be welcome as we try to provide you value! If you want to subscribe you can do that where you normally get podcasts…or you can head here to follow on Soundcloud.
Thanks so much for listening! If you have any topics you want Kirby and Amy to cover, please comment and let us know! Oh…and if you like this content, check out this page where you can find all of the content we create!
by Kirby Hasseman
We all have “that voice” in our head. I have talked about it before. It’s the voice that says you are not smart enough, or that no one cares what you think. It’s a voice that we all have to overcome if we want to put ourselves out there and live our best life.
Trust me, when I say you can overcome it. It can be done. But even after you overcome the voice at one time, or in one area, it will come back.
When you put yourself out there again, or when you step into a new situation, or push yourself further than you are used to pushing yourself, “that voice” will come back…and be louder than ever.
This happened to me quite a few times with the release of my new book. Let me give you an example.
During the week of the book launch, I wanted to make a big splash. I am proud of the new book and wanted to get it into as many hands as I could. I had even read a book called “Book Launch” so I could be extra prepared with strategies and tactics. So I prepared a “launch date” of January 6th and worked hard to schedule posts, videos, podcasts and more to make sure the new book did a canon-ball in a small pool!
I felt like I was everywhere!
As a matter of fact, after the launch on Monday and a podcast with Commonsku on Tuesday, when Wednesday rolled around and I was posting ANOTHER podcast, “that voice” was screaming at me!
“You are getting over-exposed,” the voice was yelling.
“No one wants to see this much of you,” it continued.
“Who do you think you are?” it bellowed.
To be honest, I was a bit overwhelmed and was thinking of pulling back (3 days into a book launch). Was this all too much? Are people becoming annoyed? Am I overexposed?
Then something funny happened. On that Wednesday, Roger Burnett posted his “So You’re In Sales” podcast to the Promo Professionals Facebook group. I really felt like everyone in this group was tired of me! But in that comment stream a person who I know and respect commented “Oh…I had no idea Kirby had written a book! Thanks for sharing…I will check that out!”
I was totally convinced I was “over-exposed” and a person I know, who knows me, is in the same profession and in the same Facebook group had no idea I had written a book!
That was when I got a powerful reminder. “That voice” is a liar.
If you are on a path of creating something new or pushing yourself beyond your comfort zone, that voice will tell you to stop or that it’s not good enough. Don’t listen to it. Keep going. That voice is a liar.
Thanks so much to everyone that has helped me with the launch of the new book. I sincerely appreciate it. You can find the paperback and kindle version here.
by Kirby Hasseman
I saw a post recently from someone who was celebrating the fact that they had read over 230 books in the past year. They were, understandably proud. But the point of the post was not to be braggadocios, but to make book recommendations. In the lead up to the book list they said, “I’ve been told that I have to say 14 were novellas and 3 were audiobooks and apparently those don’t count but rather then get into a whole discussion of literary snobbery and reading discrimination I’m just going to tell you my favourites.”
To that clarification I have one thing to say, “Says who?”
Who is this person or persons that have been elected the Grand Pubah of “what counts as reading?” This sort of thing makes me crazy, and it is so counter-productive to developing yourself.
Audiobooks Don’t Count: Why not? Are you saying that you don’t learn and grow from listening to a book? If that’s the case, then I can assume we should never attend a lecture again. We should never watch a tech talk or watch a video. There is simply no way we could learn anything, right? That is absurd.
Novellas Don’t Count: Great. Where can I submit my books to make sure they are the proper length? Who decides?
The point is, we need to stop worrying about these unwritten and made up rules. If you are able to grow from an audiobook, do that. If you enjoy reading a novella, go get it. It’s this type of silly rule-making that (I think) hold people back from setting goals to grow. Because of silly rules like this, people are afraid to write down their goals because they think they “will do it wrong.” You will not do it wrong. Your goals and your accomplishments are very personal. They are your own.
So the next time you start down a path and someone brings up one of these rules, simply ask them.
“Says who?”
You can find all of our content in one place on our blog page here. Oh, and if you want to check out my new book “The Give First Economy,” you can find that here.
