by Kirby Hasseman
It’s time for Episode 30 of the He Said/She Said Podcast with Hasseman Marketing! This podcast is designed to give an inside look at being married and being entrepreneurs and the projects we are working on and the challenges we are facing! We talk about business, family, community and more. So listen in and let us know what you think!
On this episode we talk about…
Trending Topic
This week Kirby and Amy talk about a really cool moment in the Heisman Trophy presentation and the amazing fundraiser for Athens County Ohio that has come from it. You can check out the fundraiser and donate here.
Weekly Whirlwind
This week in the Weekly Whirlwind Kirby talks about his content whirlwind this week and his preparations for his new book coming soon! We will have more details on the book here soon. Amy gives a quick update on the building and explains why it’s important for her to take a small break.
Lesson In Life
This week in the “lesson in life” Kirby and Amy discuss setting goals and why it matters. Kirby also jumps into what he calls the “5 F’s of Goal-Setting.” Listen and learn more about them here.
Shout Outs
Each week we want to give a shout out to an organization or an individual doing good work. This week Amy leads the way. She tells the story of the book “The Sparkle Box” and how you can have a true impact this time of year…and all year round.
So that’s a wrap! Thanks for listening to Episode 30 of the He Said She Said Podcast! Any feedback will be welcome as we try to provide you value! If you want to subscribe you can do that where you normally get podcasts…or you can head here to follow on Soundcloud.
Thanks so much for listening! If you have any topics you want Kirby and Amy to cover, please comment and let us know! Oh…and if you like this content, check out this page where you can find all of the content we create!
by Kirby Hasseman
Years ago, when my wife and I were in college, we were living about 3 1/2 hours apart. We were engaged, but we spent 3 years at different schools, and the only time we had to spend time together was on weekends. So we lived for the weekends (like many college students) and struggled to head back to our respective colleges when the time came. I hated Sundays.
The obvious reason I hated Sundays was it represented the time that I had leave Amy and head back to my school. But the other reason I woke up on Sunday with a sense of dread in my stomach was that I always wanted to put off that 3 1/2 hour drive! That drive not only represented the separation from Amy, but a long spell of total boredom. This was before podcasts, Sirius radio, or even unlimited data. For the most part, I just got in the car and drove…alone with my thoughts.
But once I finally got in the car, a funny thing happened. Though the initial act of leaving was hard, once I got in the car and started driving, it wasn’t so bad. It’s not that I didn’t miss Amy…I did. It’s just that once I committed to the act of driving, I started focusing on that. I had something to draw my attention, other than worry. And while it was still a long drive, it was almost never as bad as I envisioned it.
The same is true for most of the things we are dreading in our life.
- The sales calls, once we start them, are usually not as tough or embarrassing.
- Facing the treadmill, once you get on it, is often just fine.
- The phone call you have been putting off, is usually not as bad as we are making it out to be in our mind.
So please take a lesson from me, it won’t be as bad as you think. Just start. I spent my entire college career putting off the inevitable. I hated Sundays. It stole a whole day of the week from me. When you have something you know you need to do, stop putting it off. Lean into it and get it done. Most likely, it will not be nearly as bad as you think.
And if it is, at least it will be done.
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by Kirby Hasseman
I was talking to a young man the other day and we were discussing his life.
“How is school going?” I asked him.
“It’s going fine. But I am dropping out,” he said with his head down.
“Okay. What’s next?” I asked.
His head rose back up. “I am finishing this year of school and then I am joining the Air Force.”
We continued to chat about the transition. He talked about going through MEPS and when he might leave for Basic Training. He was finishing another semester and then moving on to the military. The thing is, he seemed excited about the new chapter, but there was something that bothered me about the conversation.
“Stop saying you are ‘dropping out,'” I told him. “You are not quitting and you did not fail. You spent a year learning in school and in life. You discovered this was not the right path, but you did not disgrace yourself. Joining the military, going to work, heading back to school, getting a new job or whatever…these are not reasons to be embarrassed. They are the next step. You did not drop out. You found the next right step. Be proud of yourself.”
I think there are a couple of lessons in here for all of us.
Be Careful How You Talk To Yourself
There is no one that talks to us more than ourselves. Our self talk is so critical in the quality and happiness of our lives. Make sure you don’t spend all of your time giving yourself the wrong message. That young man will not have “dropped out.” Instead, he finished a year of school. The amount of school is exactly the same. The message is wildly different. One of these messages knocks your confidence down. One lifts it up.
Be Intentional About How You Tell Your Own Story
The same is true with how you tell your story to others. I am not recommending that you life, or even embellish. But the way you tell your story is up to you. Be intentional about it. Own it.
I am proud of the “next right step” he is taking. I hope he is too.
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by Kirby Hasseman
It’s time for Episode 29 of the He Said/She Said Podcast with Hasseman Marketing! This podcast is designed to give an inside look at being married and being entrepreneurs and the projects we are working on and the challenges we are facing! We talk about business, family, community and more. So listen in and let us know what you think!
On this episode we talk about…
Trending Topic
This week Kirby and Amy discuss the explosion of “Hallmark” Holiday movies. They talk about why people seem to be hooked on them…and why large corporations are making more and more of them!
Weekly Whirlwind
This week in the Weekly Whirlwind Kirby talks about what December means at Hasseman Marketing. He is spending time on video and print. And Amy gives another “so close” update on the building at 539 Main Street in Coshocton. It’s not all sunshine and roses.
Lesson In Life
This week in the “lesson in life” Kirby and Amy talk about being intentional and “living in the now” during the holiday season. Amy reminds us to “put the big rocks” in first and how this is a challenge all year long.
Shout Outs
Each week we want to give a shout out to an organization or an individual doing good work. This week Amy gives a shout out to the Retail Warriors during this holiday season. Many folks are out there working hard to help us bring joy to our loved ones. Kudos to them. Kirby brings up the local business 6th Street Tatoo, who has put a coat rack in front of their business to make sure everyone can stay warm during this cold season. Love this! Listen in to learn more.
So that’s a wrap! Thanks for listening to Episode 29 of the He Said She Said Podcast! Any feedback will be welcome as we try to provide you value! If you want to subscribe you can do that where you normally get podcasts…or you can head here to follow on Soundcloud.
Thanks so much for listening! If you have any topics you want Kirby and Amy to cover, please comment and let us know! Oh…and if you like this content, check out this page where you can find all of the content we create!
by Kirby Hasseman
One of the most frustrating things in the world can be trying to help someone else work through a problem. That’s because, without emotion or history, the answer to their problem often seems very clear. You have the distance to see the problem for what it is, and the clarity to see how to fix it.
Sometimes, you have even been where they have been. So you not only see the problem, but you know the solutions and the pitfalls. From your vantage point, the problem they are facing (or the goal they are chasing) is simple.
So you make the necessary suggestions that come to mind.
- Read this book.
- Here, listen to this podcast
- This is what you need to say.
- This is the work you need to do.
But often, it seems, despite your well meaning intentions and your well researched suggestions, the instruction falls on deaf ears. They seem unwilling or unable to do what seems simple to you. It’s just a reminder that “simple is not the same as easy.” When you strip away emotion and history, problems can seem straightforward, but that is not how problems come. They present themselves (often) completely lathered in emotion and with history baked into the core.
So while you can diagnose a problem, and you can suggest solution, you can’t make me do it. You can’t help me.
Regardless of whether we are talking about fixing a relationship, education, growing a business, building an organization, or amending a behavior, there is only so much you can do. You can show me the way. You can provide a light on the path. It’s even possible to shout encouragement from the sideline. But you can’t help me do the work.
Doing the work is up to me.
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by Kirby Hasseman
Asking the right questions is incredibly important.
When you first meet with a new prospect, asking the right questions can help you better understand them. (Here are a list of 20 great questions). Asking great questions can help you be a better listener. When you take the time to ask great questions of others, good things can happen.
But it’s important to ask yourself the right questions too.
When you ask yourself a question, you are giving your subconscious mind a puzzle to start working on. In the background of your conscious thoughts, your subconscious brain will keep spinning to think through every potential solution until it reveals itself. That’s why most of us have had an epiphany about solution when we are not thinking about the problem at all. The solution just appears when we are mowing the lawn, or taking a shower, or going for a run. This happens each time we ask ourselves a question.
Thats why it’s important to ask yourself bigger and better questions.
Don’t simply ask, “how can I have enough?” Instead ask “How can I impact my community?”
If you want to have a more vibrant and interesting life, ask bigger and more interesting questions.
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